Friday, October 2, 2009

Emotional Infidelity - How To Detect It, What To Do Next

By Elizabeth Fitz

Well known as the first step on the road to cheating, emotional infidelity may well be considered cheating in it's own right. We are all aware that there is much more to a relationship than the physical aspects which are shared with one person and one person only. The meaningful part of a relationship which satisfies emotionally is the bond you share with the other person.

The emotional connection makes up a huge part of a couples relationship, and this is exactly why emotional infidelity is so soul-destroying. A relationship is about sharing emotionally and mentally with feelings and thoughts; in fact sharing your soul with another person.

When your significant other begins to form those emotional and mental bonds with someone outside the marriage, this is what is called emotional infidelity. It nearly always means there is a withdrawing from the first relationship.

You go from being your significant other's friend and confidant to being a stranger in your own relationship. This freezing out can be difficult to deal with, and may be hard to see. You may feel that the problem is on your end and that you are the one doing something wrong.

At the same time, emotional infidelity involves the other person forming bonds with another person outside the marriage. One of the terrible things about emotional infidelity is that it can be difficult to define and identify. Because there is nothing as obvious as sleeping with another person going on, saying for certain that it is going on is trickier to prove.

One very valid sign is a sort of sexual chemistry between the two people involved, with a great deal of flirting and teasing going on. It may seem they are just having a joke, no big deal, but emotional infidelity will make the person behave in a more secretive manner.

If you do suspect emotional infidelity, you need to keep some things in mind. Many people have close friends, best buddies if they are a man, and girlfriends if they are a woman. Some people have friends of the opposite sex, and they may confide in them frequently.

None of that is necessarily emotional infidelity. With emotional infidelity, the one huge sign is guilt. The red flag that someone is becoming involved with another person emotionally is when they start to try and hide what is going on. No-one who is innocently chatting with a friend needs to hide what is going on from their significant other. When they are hiding something you can safely assume that there is something to hide.

Emotional infidelity is a problem in and of itself, but it tends to be one of the early signs of a relationship going bad. The next step is usually physical infidelity, and this is almost always preceded by emotional infidelity. If you can recognize and do something about emotional infidelity, you may have an easier time than if you catch it at a later stage.

So, the big signs are emotional distancing from the significant other, and hiding things, secretive behaviour. If your partner is pulling away from you, becoming elusive and irritable, this should set alarm bells off in your head. If they are hiding phone calls, emails, avoiding questions and behaving jumpy, this is a real sign.

You need to catch emotional infidelity in its early stages an fix it. This can be tough to do, but if you suspect emotional infidelity in your relationship, then you need to seek out and advice and instruction on how to fix your relationship.

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