Tuesday, September 8, 2009

When Is A Good Time To Have A Relationship Talk?

By Monique Simmons

Unborn babies feel and experience what their mothers feel and experience as the relationship between them start from conception. Many mothers have a good relationship talk with the newcomer explaining their emotions; fears and stress that baby may be feeling as well. A trusting healthy relationship starts right here for the unborn and may continue right through his or her life.

Spare a thought for the fetus that grows every day knowing and feeling rejection as an unwanted pregnancy. One can but guess how future relationships will look like between these unhappy babies and others as they project early feelings into dealing with others. Mothers should rather sooth baby and assure them of love as they are forming their very first human bond on earth.

Toddlers will have a good look before accepting physical contact from strangers. Their instinct is searching for a feeling of safety first. Some will accept hugs and kisses from about any person dishing them out without any hesitation. Luckily their behavior at this life stage does not indicate how they will form relationships when they grow up.

Parents that maybe had no relationship guidance themselves in their early years may refrain from touching each other in front of their children. The message sent to these accepting little ones may lead them to think it wrong to show affection and love through touch. As this is the norm they grow up with, they may end up having difficulties in expressing love in their own grown up love relations where the opposite is expected from their partners.

Teenagers are notorious for closing up when emotions and feelings are concerned. Behind closed doors they contemplate and brood over their feelings inside them often lead by advice from friends only. A classic mistake parents make at this stage is to criticize behavior that is seen as wrong too harshly and without asking why the teen reacted in the way they did. By listening attentively to them, a bond will form where your teen knows it is ok to talk freely to you about their feelings.

Having good relationship advice and talks during the teen years will support them into a natural transgression into adults.

School leavers find themselves in the world of adults with high expectations from them on how to operate in all situations, especially love relationships, as these tend to overwhelm young adults. This stage usually sees the new adult making up his mind on how he or she reacts best in relationships. Their previous experiences in this field is used as building blocks.

Relationships in the working place may be difficult as well as this is seldom explained by teachers or parents earlier. Some new employees never loose the new guy in the office feeling for many years causing strained working relations.

At the end of their careers people are forced to form new relationships not only with themselves but also with those they seldom spent a lot of time with during their working days.

It seems that right through life every person needs a good relationship talk at regular intervals.

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