While most extramarital affairs end up in court houses and eventually in divorce, there are couples who still prefer to slove the problem, together. Healing infidelity is hard; sometimes, it takes time and too much emotional stress to get back at least to an acceptable marital status. Surviving an affair may even not succeed at all. But, those who made it to the end provide good lessons to those who are just beginning to heal the wounds.
1. Assure your partner that you will no longer do it again. Yes, this is the first thing you have to do. Take note that your partner has a lot of doubts on you, so if you want everything fixed, everything must be stopped from meeting, sex, dinner, phone calls, emails, to texting. Cut all the lines, period.
2. Do not rush to forgiveness. Forgiveness and healing the wounds caused by an infidel partner is not easy to forget. Your partner is still in heavy pain, expect that it will take time before he or she can forgive.
3. Take accountability. Putting all the blame to your spouse will not do anything good. If you want to forvige your partner, it is now time to listen. If you are the guilty party, accept the responsibility and constantly tell your partner that you will not commit the same mistake again.
4. Tell your partner what he needs to know. The healing process is much easier when the adulterous partner spouse answers all the questions requested by his or her betrayed partner.
If you have been secretive all your life, now is the time to end it. Your partner will better forgive you if you don't hide anything to him or her anymore.
5. Submit yourself to your spouse, without any reserve. Whether you are the betrayed partner, you have a better chance of rebuilding your relationship when you submit yourself completely and promise not to have an affair again. When rebuilding your relationship, have the time to listen to your partner even if it takes a while.
6. Don't forgive your partner right away. Saving your marriage involves forgiving your adulterous partner, but forgiveness must still be earned. Take the necessary pain first, then begin rebuilding the damaged relationship. Forgive after you have overcome the pain.
7. Seek help from the people you trust. Reconnect with relatives and friends who can help you survive and help you feel less isolated.
8. Do something else other than talking about the affair. Spend time with your relatives and partner and do activities you both once enjoyed.
9. Accept the fact that the process is painful.
Surviving an affair is not very easy; it often invovles rage, pain and tears.Ready yourself to experience them all.
1. Assure your partner that you will no longer do it again. Yes, this is the first thing you have to do. Take note that your partner has a lot of doubts on you, so if you want everything fixed, everything must be stopped from meeting, sex, dinner, phone calls, emails, to texting. Cut all the lines, period.
2. Do not rush to forgiveness. Forgiveness and healing the wounds caused by an infidel partner is not easy to forget. Your partner is still in heavy pain, expect that it will take time before he or she can forgive.
3. Take accountability. Putting all the blame to your spouse will not do anything good. If you want to forvige your partner, it is now time to listen. If you are the guilty party, accept the responsibility and constantly tell your partner that you will not commit the same mistake again.
4. Tell your partner what he needs to know. The healing process is much easier when the adulterous partner spouse answers all the questions requested by his or her betrayed partner.
If you have been secretive all your life, now is the time to end it. Your partner will better forgive you if you don't hide anything to him or her anymore.
5. Submit yourself to your spouse, without any reserve. Whether you are the betrayed partner, you have a better chance of rebuilding your relationship when you submit yourself completely and promise not to have an affair again. When rebuilding your relationship, have the time to listen to your partner even if it takes a while.
6. Don't forgive your partner right away. Saving your marriage involves forgiving your adulterous partner, but forgiveness must still be earned. Take the necessary pain first, then begin rebuilding the damaged relationship. Forgive after you have overcome the pain.
7. Seek help from the people you trust. Reconnect with relatives and friends who can help you survive and help you feel less isolated.
8. Do something else other than talking about the affair. Spend time with your relatives and partner and do activities you both once enjoyed.
9. Accept the fact that the process is painful.
Surviving an affair is not very easy; it often invovles rage, pain and tears.Ready yourself to experience them all.
About the Author:
I have been writing articles about marriage and relationship. I have personally been through a bad experience but have managed to survive an affair.
My husband and i got Married last year and we have been living happily for a while. We used to be free with everything and never kept any secret from each other until recently everything changed when he got a new Job in NewYork 2 months ago. He has been avoiding my calls and told me he is working,i got suspicious when i saw a comment of a woman on his Facebook Picture and the way he replied her. I asked my husband about it and he told me that she is co-worker in his organization,We had a big argument and he has not been picking my calls,this went on for long until one day i decided to notify my friend about this and that was how she introduced me to Mr James(Worldcyberhackers@ gmail. com) a Private Investigator who helped her when she was having issues with her Husband. I never believed he could do it but until i gave him my husbands Mobile phone number. He proved to me by hacking into my husbands phone. where i found so many evidence and proof in his Text messages, Emails and pictures that my husband has an affairs with another woman.i have sent all the evidence to our lawyer. I just want to thank Mr James for helping me because i have all the evidence and proof to my lawyer,I Feel so sad about infidelity.
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